Over the past 20 years, I’ve sat face-to-face with over 1,000 couples on the brink of separation.
Some had been married for 40+ years.
Others in their 20’s to their 80’s no age group escapes.
One couple I’ll never forget — were in crisis just five days after their wedding.
The timeline didn’t matter.
The patterns did.
And because it’s just me alone I can only work with a small number of couples each month, in that time I’ve personally reviewed over 5,000 in-depth applications from couples asking for help.
That means I’ve seen — in more detail than almost anyone — the true reasons marriages fall apart.
And here’s what I discovered:
There are 100 core mistakes that break most marriages.
Not random chaos.
Not personality mismatches.
Not bad luck.
Just 100 repeatable, predictable, and marriage eroding patterns that almost every couple in crisis had in common — whether they were 5 days in or 30 years deep.
So I took everything I’d seen — the sessions, the case studies, the emotional truths behind the surface problems — and turned it into something you can read in one evening:
A downloadable research-driven guide to the 100 Marriage Mistakes you must avoid. I’ve structured this so you can see the mistakes that fit under each of the 5 foundational pillars for marital success.
- Core – Identity & Emotional Self-Mastery: Because who you are shapes how you love. When you’re lost in survival mode or disconnected from yourself, the relationship suffers.
- Compassion – Understanding & Emotional Safety: Without emotional safety, love can’t grow. You need to feel seen, heard, and valued to build connection.
- Chemistry – Intimacy, Polarity & Connection: Passion doesn’t fade with time — it fades with disconnection. Chemistry must be maintained by design, not luck.
- Communication – Words, Repair, & Conflict: What you say — and how you respond in hard moments — defines whether you grow closer or apart.
- Clarity – Vision, Values & Future Direction: If you don’t know where you’re going as a couple, even love gets lost. Alignment creates momentum.
Inside You’ll Learn:
- Why even well-meaning partners slowly create disconnection
- The habits that kill emotional safety and attraction — without realising
- What almost every couple gets wrong when trying to fix things
- How to avoid the “silent drift” that leads to separation
- And what you can do differently starting now at the end of the book…
Why This Book Could Save You Years of Pain
So much suffering has happened and these couples who struggled are showing us the way very clearly.
This book is about helping struggling individuals and couples understand something critical. It’s about knowing the challenges you face with clarity. Any great leader of anything important only wants the truth of a situation.
They want the truth because that’s the only place they can grow from. You cannot grow from burying heads in sand or seeing things far worse than they really are.
Sadly many couples don’t realise the level of trouble they are in… so they don’t take action quick enough.
If they do know they are in trouble most don’t know the real why.
So they’re stuck in emotional autopilot — not because they don’t care, but because they never saw the patterns clearly.
This book is a wake-up call for those ready to learn, to see out of the 100 most common mistakes which ones are in our marriage – it’s designed to help you see what’s going on so you can take action.
It’s designed so you can name the problems you relate to today. Many people struggle to put words to their experiences. Others put wrong or confusing words to their interpretation of their problems.
This book is a bridge between your experience and what’s happening.
These 100 mistakes broke 5,000 marriages.
Individuals and couple can now learn from this, see what is problematic in their marriage so they can change it today.
Whether your relationship is in crisis, or you simply want to protect the love you have — this guide gives you the exact insight that has taken me 20 years and 5,000 couples to uncover.
For individuals and couples genuinely wanting to learn and heal: Download the book note which problems you relate to, if your partner wants to heal too, invite them to do the same and this will form the starting point of discussing how to approach these challenges.
In my experience of two decades – couples problem the root ones don’t go away this is why this is so important.
Download now — clarity is just one click away…
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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