Iâ€™m sure that the logical side of all of us will agree that prevention of any problem we have is far better than putting ourselves through a problem and then having to find a cure.
So if this really makes sense then why do most couples choose to not look to for answers to what equals success for their relationship before the problems hits them.
The reasons are many, but here are a fewâ€¦
- Itâ€™s unromantic to put our relationship under the microscope
- They are scared to look in case they find something they donâ€™t like
- They donâ€™t believe anyone could help them
- We are different and so we will never get to the point of splitting up
The problem is, if any couple goes into a relationship believing that they will not face challenges they will be massively deluding themselves, because we all do, no matter how good your relationship is.
What is, or could impact your relationship?
Assumptions, poor communication, fears, other people, work, family again there are many, many more who all have a massive impact on us from day-to-day and this impact will create a shift within us without us knowing.
At this point we can move from being in the version of ourselves where the world is always great, into the version of fear.
From here the world looks very different and if you live here for long enough, and you and your partner donâ€™t know what to do, you can start attaching your fears to your relationship and without meaning to spend the next few years sabotaging each other without knowing as you try to get back to the place where everything was amazing.
- FACT: No great decisions ever come from the version of you that is in a fear state.
The really smart people know there is a lot they don’t know, so…
The smart people know that these situations will happen and so they seek information and guidance to ensure that whatever comes up, they are able to notice the danger before it happens and help each other become realigned with each other critical needs and more importantly their most important values that equal happiness.
Most people donâ€™t understand what these are, or how they work and if that’s you then please get in touch because the impact of not understanding this is massive, and is one of the biggest contributors to relationship break-ups from thousands of couples who all thought they were different and special.
It would never happen to them… BUT IT DID!