Put your partner first - Mini Post | Stephen Hedger

Whenever a person in a relationship feels that something else is more important than them trouble is never far away.

This can range from kids to work, from parents to the attractive person in the office.

One of the biggest fears I see is the worry we are not enough and when other things become a priority the fear is compounded.

Our partner’s feelings need to matter so you must understand what behaviours will equal they are enough.

The cost of them not feeling enough is they shut down emotionally and meet their needs elsewhere and that can create all manner of problems.

People’s needs must be met so understanding them is critical.

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With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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