In relationships many couples feel that they are qualified to judge each other. They feel comfortable in making their partner wrong.
This causes conflict…
Let’s be 100% clear, the only person that is qualified to judge you is you!
Any person making their partner wrong, is going to help their partner feel bad and they will attach those bad feelings to the relationship.
Judgments in this way don’t work and are destructive.
You can however judge how you feel and you can communicate that. As long as you don’t blame them for your emotional response.
I.E. When you did that what I experienced was this? This helps to avoid conflict.
It’s very likely your partner is not out to hurt you and will listen to you and respect your emotions.
Persistent judgements will kill the relationship… So don’t judge your partner, love your partner, especially if you want to keep the relationship!