In yesterdays post I spoke about the problem of not putting your partner first.
At the core of that problem is the fear that I am not enough and that fear for some can mean they worry they won’t be loved.
That fear for many is too much to bear and so a person in that space can divorce their partner because they love them not because they don’t.
The pain of feeling they are not enough can drive a person into an emotional shutdown to protect themselves from future pain.
The pain of not being able to love someone because it’s not safe, or feeling they are not worthy of the other person’s love is enough to emotionally shut them down.