Many people unhappy in their relationship get to the point where they start to seriously wonder, “…should I break up with my partner?” Husband, Wife, Girlfriend, Boyfriend whoever you are there comes a point in your relationship where this question comes up.
There is a whole variety of reactions to this question.
- Some just feel so bad so they bolt from the relationship.
- Some wait a while, on the look out for more proof they are incompatible.
- Some put their head in the sand and focus on friends, family, or work in the hope it will sort itself out.
- Some separate hoping the space will help them miss each other, or give them time to reflect on what feels right now they are out of the pressure cooker.
Does any of this work?
The chances of this really working is slim, because the reason the couple were having problems has not been addressed. The reason is because the couple will be totally unaware of what is driving them at a subconscious level. This means behaviours and feelings are being created without conscious thought.
The result is the couple are in reaction to what they can make sence of consciously. Without knowing they are missing not only their own drivers behind their behaviours, but also their partners. Compound this with the massive differences between the sexes and emotional volcanoes are not far away.
- If the couple are arguing a lot, the arguing is not the real problem.
- There could be an affair, again although an affair is horrible to be the victim of that will not be the core problem historically in your relationship, but it quickly becomes the focus and the reason to leave.
- Communication problems, never feeling heard, fighting for attention, feelings of jealousy, overly controlling, addictions, money problems the list is endless.
Whatever you are experiencing is not going to be the real issue in your relationship. This is why even the most intelligent people struggle to fix their relationship problems.
It really doesn’t take long to discover what’s causing the problems if you know where to look.
When the real problem is discovered the question is this: Now you know what has to change are you happy to change what been driving the problems.
Of course that can go either way, but at least you know why it all went wrong.
If you are prepared to fix the core behaviour problems then the chances are you will learn how to create a trust between the two of you that is potentially unbreakable. This is what creates unconditional love! The thing everyone wants, but many don’t believe exists, or are two afraid to give.
If you have been asking yourself should I break up with my partner? My advice is find out the truth in your relationship, because the wrong assumption could cost you dearly.
It’s not difficult to discover the truth, you just have to be brave enough to want to find it.
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