Yesterday I wrote about how the meanings we give to situations shape our lives today. So to expand on that we are going to look at the foundation that creates those meanings.
Our focus of thought is the foundation of our life experiences. Without a conscious direction of thought most people minds automatically focus on their fears, or what’s wrong.
The mind is designed for automatic processing of thought so we can quickly understand if we are safe or not. The problems come when we use this automatic thought to design our lives…
If our focus is the foundation of our meaning then most people will live in fear. This fear is brought to life and maginfied by the person as they feel more and more out of control of their life.
Every second of every day your mind is on a search for meanings to the life that being presented to you.
Whatever filter you are using to digest that information will craft your meanings, your behaviours and so your life will become a reflection of your constant thoughts.
So if the automatic filter of experience is on what wrong this is what you’ll discover more of. This is critical to understand if you want to create a successful future.
Your Life today is a reflection of your most consistent thoughts historically.
A person who lives their whole life automatically, is going to have a life created by chance.
A person who is consciously aware of the power of focus will become the designer of their life because they will be focused on the life they desire and the behaviours needed to create it. This person has far more chance of success.
A person with little to no conscious thought is going to be focused on their lack! They are focus on what they don’t have and this only creates more fear and worry.
The key to success is to become lazer focused on what you want.
Your mind is very compliant whatever you ask it, it will find you the answers to that question.
Great questions lead to great answers.
No questions or poor questions lead you to a future you never defined, so a person focus on not being safe will create a future that is unsafe. A person focus on creating security will have a totally different outcome !
So as you look around you, is this the future you wanted? Are you in the life you wanted to be in? Do you have all you desire?
If the answer is no then the power of focus is the answer to your life puzzle.
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