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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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Who struggles with relationships the most?

There is a group of people who are most likely to suffer in their long-term intimate relationships. 

This group of people have a mission and that is they are looking to change/control the behaviours of people around them so they are emotionally happy and secure in themselves.

Some of these people are consciously aware of what they are doing and some just think this is how life actually works.

This group of people are the ones who DO NOT have a successful relationship with themselves and are wanting people around them to adapt their behaviour so they are not emotionally triggered.

In essence, what these people are doing is trying to avoid the feelings they don’t want and they will do almost anything to avoid them including controlling others.

What interesting is this person wants others around to dance to their tune, but if the same was asked of them they would reject the request to change in a heart beat.

We all know these people, no matter what is happening they will be triggered to find a way to be upset either through being negative always looking for problems, they can be angry at the drop of a hat, they might feel qualified to judge everything, there are the blamers and the ones that fear everything the list, of course, goes on and on.

The key is these people are trying to control the outside world, which is impossible and their lack of success will add to their stress.

So this results in them practicing being unhappy with those around them.

What they struggle to see is what is driving their behaviour.

With help, they can take back control of their lives by learning that their emotions are created by themselves and they have the power to chose them once they know-how.

The down side of this group is…

The pleasers will do their best to comply, but will eventually burn out, the rest will either quietly conform but with resentments stacking as they eventually plan their exit, and the rest will fight their corner and a power-play will ensue.

Either way either aggressive or passive control will kill any kind of connection and lead couples into a transactional emotionless relationship.

This is why many couples and individuals are attending my sessions to deal with their individual challenges long before we deal with the couple problems.

This way they are armed to become effective partners that don’t look to control each other but look to add massive value in the way their partner needs. 

They learn to contribute effectively because it’s who they are and this is the authentic energy that grows love and is a foundation to life long passion.

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Hi, I'm Stephen Hedger. I'm determined to help couples discover what their marriage is capable of with the right information. My only question is, will it be yours?

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About Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for consistently and naturally saving many marriages from divorce. He is a favourite of business leaders, business owners, Judges and celebrities.

Stephen runs his meetings from his office in Harley Street London and supports his global clients over Zoom.

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Success Stories

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

Please Save Our Marriage! – Testimonial

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Please Save Our Marriage! This was the first email I recieved from Darren and Sue, they were at breaking point. When they first entered my clinic you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. This was a couple with young children on the edge, breaking up seemed like the only option open to them… Sue […]

“He thought his life was over..!”

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is a little different. I wanted to share with you a clients words about his experience of the pain of his divorce and the process of rebuilding him and his future. Over to him… The words hit me like a hammer ~ “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken, you never were. […]

“His emotions were sabotaging what he really wanted…”

November 3, 2019 By Stephen Hedger

What you are about to read is about is a gentleman in turmoil. He thought he had lost the girl he loved and his one-year-old son. She had left him and this connected him to his core fears, emotions that were powerful enough to sabotage him from getting the very thing he wanted. As his […]

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Recent Posts

  • “It’s like watching two kids squabbling”
  • A thought for Sunday
  • An Intimacy Conundrum
  • The cost of NOT hearing a cry for help
  • Triggered?

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