Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Advisor | Harley Street London

What are the top three critical things a couple can focus on that will make 80% of the difference to the success of their relationship? Are you aware of what’s critical to make your relationship work? Many couples don’t know and so they can find themselves stuck, unhappy, lonely in their relationships.

So as you scan the points below what do you think you have missed or not understood fully?

1 Are you meeting your partners core needs?

Most couples relationship fail when their core needs are not being met. Most couples are not aware of their partners’ real needs. They give to their partners, but they give what they think their partner wants and not what they really want.

This is fundamental so don’t guess, ask them and learn.

2 Do you share the same goals and vision for the future

Find out if you and you partner share the same vision for the future? One of the biggest challenges is if the couple have totally different goals. So communicate to each other and share how life should be for you?

3 Do you know how to grow closer through conflict?

Most couples argue, this is a normal part of life. So do you know how to create a deeper connection and understanding out of each argument, or does resentment and lack of respect become the result.

Many couples have resentment building over the years. Bit-by-bit the relationship loses the passion and the couple grow apart as the relationship dies.

In summary

  • If you are both excited about your vision of your lives together and you are working towards all your exciting goals your relationship will have direction.
  • If you are meeting each other needs your partner will feel looked after and understood by you. They will feel valuable. It’s critical the man feels like a man and the woman feels like a woman in the way they want.
  • Plus if you grow closer each time trouble strikes your bond will be unbreakable.
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