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Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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Are you passionate about your relationship? If so this is for you…

If you want your relationship/marriage to work then learning the answer to this question will be a monumental jump forward for any couple to explore.

Question: What really has to happen for couples to stay connected in a meaningful way for life? 

Many couples are only learning they should have known the answer to this question after they survived their own personal crisis…

These couples have lived a half life with each other, coping and existing, never really connecting at a level which would have worked long-term.

You see men and women are not naturally designed to understand each other emotionally. In fact emotionally the sexes are poles apart.

Our relationships are one of the most emotional experiences we can have. So how can we connect emotionally if we don’t understand each other?

This really is the point!: Men and women are not born knowing how to understand each other…

In an effort to understand we try to make our partners words and actions fit into to what naturally seems to make sense to us. The problem is if we do this most of the time we will be wrong.

So if we really don’t understand each other how can we connect?… Plain and simple you can’t! Understanding is the key, or at least showing an active desire to understand is a big step in the right direction.

Remember 50% divorce rate is that high for a reason – lack of understanding.

When couples fail to connect especially emotionally, their relationship will experience symptoms like affairs, detachment, loss of love to name a few.

Look at this story: 

This couple was very much in love living together, she desperately wanted to marry him, but after a while she started to realise something she had ignored, but was becoming important to her.

He really didn’t understand her and from her perspective he didn’t seem to want to try even though she tried to tell him over and over. The result: She was becoming verbally upset with his lack of care and the more upset she became the less he wanted to marry her.

Realising he was never going to understand she stopped her emotional outbursts and in doing so  disconnected from him emotionally. She stayed in the relationship hoping things would change.

She longed for him to see her silence as a clear message, hoping he would come to her and want to understand her. After another year of her being disconnected emotionally he by contrast was enjoying the calm, no conflict meant all was well.

There was no upset coming from her, she seemed from his perspective, content. In reality she was just waiting to feel strong enough to leave the relationship as her love had now died because clearly he didn’t care.

Full of his own happiness he decided to asked her to marry him. Expecting a resounding YES!

To his shock and amazement she too looked shocked and said “…you have got to be joking… I’m actually leaving you!!!”

The result: He was confused, she was confused and so they came for my help.

The reality is both people had assumed they understood their situation. She had assumed he would understand why she was so upset and what to do, he had not understood the gravity of her being upset and what the calm over the past year had really meant.

The reality is they were both losing a relationship that could have worked if they only knew how to translate what each other was really saying and doing.

So no matter what stage your relationship is in, it is both your responsibility to protect it. The only way you can do that is learn about it and your partner.

Both the people in this story wanted love, but had not explored past their own needs and their patterns of behaviour if those needs were not met. The result the relationship collapsed.

They both fell in love and then didn’t know how to keep it alive, so they both killed it, but didn’t know this is what they were doing.

Many couples are in this place, because they lack the skills needed to attach and stay attached emotionally.

My clients learn these skills and you can too no matter what relationship stage you are in. If you want to ensure you will avoid serious problems, or solve the problems you have this is critical to understand. Want to be a client call us today.

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I’m not going to ask you how you “feel", pay me to watch you argue, or try to find the person to blame.

I am looking to discover if the couple can become a team, overcome their problems together and create a dynamic that will create a loving and passionate life together.

My approach is to take you from where you are, to where you want to be… fast!

I can not recommend Stephen highly enough – he not only saved our marriage, but has improved my marriage and myself as a person.

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Hi, I'm Stephen Hedger. I'm determined to help couples discover what their marriage is capable of with the right information. My only question is, will it be yours?

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Success Stories

Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

“I was in tears…” 

October 20, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

“Lawyer saves relationship alone”!

July 27, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

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Recent Posts

  • “Needy and not needed!”
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  • “Unveiling the Secrets: How I Mastered the Art of Resolving Relationship Issues”
  • 3 Foundations for a Healthy Marriage
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Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on the Stephen Hedger Marriage Coach website/s are proof of our success, naturally, results may vary from person to person.

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