When couples in trouble come to me for help, the first thing I know is whatever they have both been doing is going to be killing the relationship.
Unfortunately most couples only come for help at the point where they feel they have nothing to lose because the relationship is at the end.
My advice to all couples is, when you start to feel that the relationship is not working get help quickly. The most challenging couple to save is the one where one person is totally convinced the relationship is the wrong one. Yes I can help, but it takes longer.
At the moment any couple goes into conflict the relationship is potentially vulnerable to destruction. Because most people don’t have any kind of relationship education, destruction is sadly the path they both usually take.
What if every argument ended in a stronger love?
So my goal with couples is to help them understand their primary goal at this point of conflict. I help them understand what is going on for each other and why both people are responding in the way they are. Fundamentally men and women are very different, so they operate differently, this causes confusion fear and more problems.
Usually the couple discover that although they don’t like their partners’ reactionary behaviour they understand that their partners’ intention is usually positive.
Once the couple start to see their individual “intention” is not to hurt each other the couple are then open to understanding from a new perspective rather than judging which then leads to punishment.
You see if a couple at the point of conflict can grow then the couple can start to both feel more secure together. What I am looking for is an understanding of the primary needs that drive the individuals so I can show them how they can both meet these needs in conflict and “love” becomes the result…
This is one of the primary reasons I help so many couples so quickly. A few simple change can make such a big difference…
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