Many of my clients come to me with a goal of what they would like to achieve.
Whilst I do help them to achieve their goals sometimes their specific goal could lead them into disaster, maybe to false hope, or failure which just adds insult to injury.
My job as a relationship coach is to re-define their goals so they are achievable.
For example, many clients want to get old relationships back. They want to understand why their relationships have failed and what can they do to get the relationships back.
Other clients come to me as couples not understanding why they are going round in circles.
My first task is usually to help clients go for goals such as happiness first. There are many reason why I take clients down this road.
The first is because getting clients on the verge, or in depression out of their land of despair into a confident and successful place where life is full of opportunity and fun is a great re-focus for those tormented by their loss of the life they really wanted.
The second is because if their goal is to get an old relationship back or their current one back on track, presenting a depressed person as a potential life partner is never very successful.
Present a person who is magnetic to success, life and lives life true to who they really are, now that’s a different story.
It really does not matter what stage of a relationship you are in, becoming the person you want to be is critical to attracting all you desire from your life, including your partner.
What many couples fail to recognise is that despite being together for years they still have to market themselves to attract their partners, but usually they become lazy and fearful.
As a relationship coach I help individual build amazing relationships with themselves first. When individuals connect with their true selves it’s like a light has gone on and life can be seen as an adventure once more, but this time from a place of honesty and this time without the fears.
A relationships coaches job is not to fix relationships. The coaches job is to help individual build amazing relationships with themselves so they can present an honest exciting version of themselves to their partners.
From this place, growth, lasting passion is possible and a relationship coach can show clients the way to support each other to a shared vision/journey through life.