When two people decide to give the best years of their life to each other it’s a wonderful commitment.
They have chosen to go on a journey through life with each other, they have chosen to become a team, some couples choose to become leaders of a bigger team as children become part of their plan.
So to build a successful team we need clear goals and we need to know the strengths and weaknesses of the team members so the journey to the chosen goals becomes easier.
Any business leader knows this is critical if they are to gain the outcomes they are after.
The problem is very few people apply this to their lives and become leaders of their family. They have lost sight of why they are together, they don’t share their goals and they end up focused on their partners weaknesses. So together they lead their family to destruction.
So if you don’t know where you are going together and all you are starting to see is your partners faults then what’s the chance of the relationship starting to fail?
Planning a relationship for success is critical, but most couples cross their fingers and hope and the cost is very high.
What’s worse is most have children and not only are those children the victim of the leaders (mother and father) not leading the family to success. The children then learn from their parents how not to build a successful relationship and so the cycle is born and reborn.
A relationship needs two people committed to the reason they are together. They are passionate about where they are going and what’s important right from the start.
They are on a mission to learn about each other and how to help the person they say they love experience life in the way they want to.
So what are the skills the leaders need to be successful in building a successful future.
- They need vision of what they want to create together.
- They need empathy for each others feelings.
- They need the skill to communicate in a way which is understood.
- They need to know their own needs.
- They both need to know what’s important to them.
- They need to make meeting their partner needs a priority.
- They both need to put their partner first.
- Most of all they need to know how to successfully repair the relationship when things go wrong because they will.
These are just some of the skills family leaders need to have to keep their future emotionally secure.