Todays post is to help men become successful with their partners. The fastest way to build the deepest trust is at the point of conflict. Men if you can do this she will see you as her man, her hero, this is what she wants.
If you as a couple can build trust and love out of your conflict you will unleash in her a passionate lover for life for you.
When she is upset she will communicate many things, some hurtful, some true, some not true from your perspective.
I know men you are listening to her words and becoming hurt by all the nasty things she is saying to you.
The problem is before you became hurt by her words, she was in pain herself first and she has come to you with her pain.
So here is what she experiences with you if you become hurt by her words. When I am in pain emotionally, you make my pain about you. Instantly men you’ll become weaker to her. She will feel she has to protect herself and she will resent you for that.
At that point you become weak to her. She doesn’t want a weak man and so if this keeps happening she will lose her attraction for him, this means their sex life will struggle and for many die.
This why she is fearful, a weak man can’t keep her safe. That wasn’t what she dreamed of, or saw when she agreed to be with him.
Men if you watched her instead of getting so wrapped up with what her words mean to you. You will see the woman you love is in trouble emotionally. When you notice this your question is… how much pain must she be in, if in the moment all the words she is communicating for her feel true?
So at the point of significant emotional pain for her what do you do? What does any woman want? She wants her man to be strong and to love her.
When she brings problems to her man what she wants to know is have I got a man or a boy?
All men have both inside them it’s just many don’t know how to bring that strong part of him out especially when she is emotionally challenged. So she has come to him for help and now both people are fearful.
She wants to feel that she can become all of who she is with a strong man who loves all of her, even the parts of herself she hates. She wants that love to be strong, warm, caring and unconditional.
If this has struck a cord please get in touch to learn more.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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