I love my partner, but it’s just not working anymore! Is this you? If you and your partner love each other, but are just not getting on there is good news for you.
With the right focus and understanding a very fast shift can put you both back on track. You see most couples come for help far too late and so it just takes longer to build up the trust, respect and rebuild that intimate connection again.
So if they leave it too long they will feel so numb that leaving the relationship now feels far less painful and so an attractive option so please don’t ignore problems and never assume they have gone away. Many men have sat in my sessions very upset to have been asked for a divorce when they never knew there was a problem.
The reality was they thought the problems had gone away months or years before, but within her the problems were getting bigger, but she had stopped communicating because she saw no point.
So if you are still in love with each other, but are struggling NOW is the time to deal with this. These are the key signs to look out for…
Signs we have relationship problems…
- The obvious one is arguments everyone knows there is a problem.
- She keeps repeating the same problem. She is hoping he will get it, he doesn’t and she feels frustrated and misunderstood.
- He feels she doesn’t respect him.
- There is no growth, the relationship feels stale and boring.
- How about when she stops communicating that she has a problem. Does this mean the problem has gone away? No the problem is still there and it’s getting worse and she is expecting him to notice and deal with it.
- If the intimacy is slowing down or is dead this is critical to deal with because you are shifting into the “friends at best” zone.
- Things outside of the relationship are becoming more important. She spend more time with her work, friends children and family. He spends more time with work, friends, hobbies.
- If either of you starts to fear you can’t trust your partner.
- A female will shutdown intimacy if she feels her partner is becoming one of the children, this is not attractive for her.
- The couples stop giving freely and now every thing is a trade, I will do this for you if you do this for me. Guaranteed to kill the passion.
- If you feel your partner is trying to control you through a fear of some kind.
If you are experiencing any of these problems please don’t hesitate to get help, make that call you have been putting off now!
Men and women do try their best to fix these problems but they usually make them worse without knowing.