Here’s how to get it. Sustaining a passionate love life is all about building an unbreakable trust with your partner. Helping your partner feel like they are always the most important part of your life, helping them become secure in the knowledge that you will always be there for them.
You promise to love them forever, never judge them, or make them wrong. You’ll define your future together and help to grow your relationship towards that future whilst keeping life exciting.
Plus you’ll help them become the person they want to become in the life they want to live by understand their needs and values for life. If you promise to do all of this and you practice it consistently every day then prepare yourself for a life long love affair, because as you give and give you will discover you’ll never have to take.
…most couples do the reverse especially under pressure
Most couples don’t do this because they go to a fearful place and they start to pull love away when they have the perception that things are going wrong.
They may feel inadequate in the relationship, or maybe their fear drives them to look for problems. Or they can’t seem to understand why that spark they had in the beginning has gone.
When one or both people in the relationship goes to a place of fear the passion stops dead!
Many men come to me with the problem that their partner has removed themselves sexually from the relationship. Most of the time the woman is in a place of fear. She may not be able to see a future, maybe due to trust issues, communication break down, or she may fear not having the life or relationship she wanted, her fears will be unique to her.
Whatever her reason for being scared, putting pressure on her for sex will never work.
Plus more and more women are complaining that their men are shutting down sexually too. Again there are many reasons, but you can bet that fear is never far from their door.
Never ever pull your love away, you will always hurt yourself and your relationship if you do.
Sex is always the first thing to go when relationships hit problems, and of course life is full of them, how you deal with those problems together is what makes the difference.
The key to a passionate future together is giving and giving and giving so find out what he or she really needs and give it to them in buckets.
Biggest tip for the ladies: Your man has two big desires in life that will make him feel like a man in your relationship. The first one is not what you think – Pleasing you is his number one desire, this makes him feel like a man. So help him feel successful with you.
Biggest tip for the men: Women want attention all the time. So get present with your partner and listen to her, feel what she feels, shower her with attention, understand what she really needs. Help her feel like the most beautiful beautiful woman in the world to you. She must know she is No.1.
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With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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