I don’t know about you, but l like to make my life easy. I like simple steps that add massive value to my life. Easy things I can do almost without thinking about them.
Look at how I think about my day: In theory I have millions of things to focus on, but I choose to focus on just 3. My health, my marriage to the beautiful Cloe, and my Clients. As long as I add value to those three things every day life is growing in a meaningful way and it’s easy.
So in todays post I’m going to breakdown three critical areas of focus that most couples don’t do, but should. Without these three areas being looked after the relationship either will suffer, or the relationship will become vulnerable.
So when I take one area to focus on I.E. My marriage to Cloe the following three areas are of significant focus to me.
Step 1 – Make NOW great…
The challenge with NOW is most people are not living in it. Far too many people are living in the past, or using the past as a mirror for their perceived future. Some people spend much of their time worried about the future afraid of what it might bring.
It’s so important to learn as a couple to make NOW as good as you can make it with each other and for each other.
With Cloe my mission is to help her be free to be what she wants to be, to be part of helping her live her dream life.
Step 2 – Create an exciting future
I’ve not yet met a couple who have planned their future and their relationship properly. I meet some of the most brilliant business minds who have planned their businesses and yet have let their relationship meander.
Cloe and I spend a lot of time building a vision for the future we both are excited about. We have created a purpose for being together that’s just about us.
Many people make their jobs or their children their life, this is a problem especially when the children grow up and the couple near retirement, they have no reason to be together.
Give yourselves a reason to be together.
Step 3 – Stay connected on the journey – become a team
All couples will have problems, life is naturally full of ups and downs. Life is an ever changing experience. Nothing ever stays the same, so the couple must learn how to become a team on the journey.
This means knowing how to fix problems together. It means knowing how to stay valuable to each other, it means looking after each other.
As you look at those three messages, who wants to leave a relationship where every day is great and the couple are looking forward to creating an exciting life together and on this journey they know how to stay passionately connected.
These three areas are foundational in keeping any relationship healthy.
Every week I teach couples how to achieve this amazing life.
- Some come in crisis
- Some are starting their journey together
- Some just want the tools to keep their relationship alive for life.
- Some have lost their way, their love, or their passion
If you are interested in learning more about these simple steps, make contact with us or book in for an initial consultation so you can hear from me one-on-one what specifically you have to do to get your relationship back on track for life.