Why so many don’t get the life they really want.
One of the people I admire most is a gentleman who was a self-made businessman.
He was taught from the age of 26 what it took to become wealthy from having no money at all.
What I liked about him was his journey wasn’t about the money at all it was about who he had to become to attain the money.
So his route to financial success was actually connected to his own personal development and philosophies.
This is exactly the methodology I am using to help couples rebuild their marriages if you change the thinking you’ll change the dynamic.
For example: “Who do I have to become to be worthy of my marriage”?
He was 26 and broke
He started his journey 26 and broke with a young family and no real prospects.
He had met a wealthy man who agreed to be his mentor.
This man taught him the strategies and the philosophies for business and wealth creation.
He followed this advice and it wasn’t long before he too became personally wealthy himself.
In his 60s this businessman was running seminars teaching what he had learnt and he said something really interesting.
Even though I am teaching exactly what I did to become wealthy from someone who had become wealthy himself.
So it’s a model that can clearly be replicated.
He knew that only 10% of his audience would take action and follow the advice even though 100% would say wealth generation is what they want.
So 90% are guaranteed to fail through ineffective thinking.
He knew that some would just keep buying courses from everyone, but wouldn’t take action.
He was aware some would adopt sabotaging patterns to stop themselves from taking action with thoughts like their situation or life was different and so it wouldn’t work for them.
Others would say it’s only the other people or the lucky people that really become wealthy so I won’t waste my time.
It’s like they are looking for proof that it wouldn’t work.
Then there are the half-hearted people that have a go, but quickly fail and then see that as the proof it wouldn’t work for them.
Many are concerned that they will put a lot of effort in and it won’t have been worth it.
It’s an interesting process that people are in especially when the hard work has actually been done for them, all they have to do is follow those that have achieved what they want.
Successful people don’t think the way the other 90% do.
Successful people have a vision and will then run out of ways of getting it wrong so they can get the process right to achieve their vision.
Successful people are relentless and they see failure as an opportunity for growth, in essence, failure for them doesn’t exist as they learn something new each time.
The reason I see so many successful business people and entrepreneurs in my sessions is they already have the right mindset for success.
What they are missing is how to apply that mindset to their marriage.
They want to contribute and grow, but they don’t know how so they become relentless in their discovery of their truth.
Many have been through all sorts of help before the arrive at my door.
They simply want to understand the problems and discover what they have to do to solve it.
Education is the answer, no one is going to come across the answers, the answers are not going to randomly arrive and no one was born with them.
The teaching is here for those that want to learn.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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