Love is an action, not a feeling
How many people say I don’t feel love for my partner anymore. How many say I love you, but I’m not in love with you?
Love is not a feeling that randomly decends.
Love isn’t a feeling you can wait for.
Love comes from someone taking action to become loving.
We all like to receive loving gestures, but the true power of our love happens when we give it.
It’s the act of giving love is what creates the love, and when there is a flow of giving love between two people then that love is magnified and the feelings are significantly more intense.
So when someone says I’m no longer in love, what they are really saying is they have stopped giving their love.
The next question is why?
Getting to the bottom of this question is so important.
Many people stop giving love due to a significant misunderstanding in the couple’s connection.
At the heart of the problem is a consistent need to protect yourself from your partners’ words or actions.
I am very vocal that men and women disconnect and misunderstand all the time and this can trigger a constant need to self-protect and this can kill their desire to contribute love.
So the love of course dies.
It’s very hard to give love to someone who you also feel you need to protect yourself from.
Love in many cases is not dead it’s just dormant pending action.
I have personally seen couples that have been sexually and emotionally dead for ten years and the love has reignited because they are now both contributing love now the relationship is understood and emotionally safe.
So you see love really is an action, love is the action of feeding your marriage what it needs to stay alive.
So if your partner has lost their love for you steps need to be taken to help them feel safe to love again.