The worst problem to have is the problem you can’t solve but really need to.
There is no doubt relationship problems do seem complicated, but it doesn’t mean the solutions have to be.
Like most people I like to find a way to make my life easier.
Keep it simple!
Who wants to read a manual every time there is an upset, problem, or confusion – I know I didn’t.
None of my clients want this complication either.
They want simple step-by-step solutions that are easy to understand and actionable.
So today I want to to present a very simple concept.
Are you part of the problem or part of the solution?
Many people may approach their relationship problems with good intent, but discover their approach actually makes the problems worse.
They really don’t know why or what they have to change.
Some start off with good intent, but lose control of themselves through frustration and then create an even bigger problem.
Others just give up communicating or create a transactional connection so they don’t expose the emotional deficit.
So it’s comes down to a binary yes or no question
Do I know how to positively influence my partner and my marriage?
Most couples don’t know how to positively trigger each other and so most are creating negative triggers which is leading couples to stacked resentment and emotional detachment.
So if your struggling with problems do you want to become part of the solution?
- Yes – I want to learn how to become part of the solution.
- No – I’ve given-up
- Don’t know – I’m lost.
Let’s expand those three questions.
1. Yes – I want to learn how to become part of the solution.
If you want your marriage to work, but you don’t know what to do to be part of the solution, which BTW is most people, then please click to take steps to find out how.
2. No – I’ve given-up
If you feel you are at the end of the road, then it may be worth just taking a step back to make sure that your thinking makes sense as many people do regret ending their marriage.
3. Don’t know – I’m lost.
If you are lost and don’t know what to do, it may be time to explore your options, so you gain a safe outcome.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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