Is there something in the past in your relationship that has caused you to feel resentment towards your partner?
Have you felt that you have been treated unfairly, or you have felt betrayed in some way?
Ask yourself this… Is there a possibility that you have contributed to the situation that has caused you to feel pain and then attached these feelings of resentment to your partner.
You see, really understanding each other here is critical and most couple don’t.
Unless you can forgive your partner the chance of a happy marriage are slim.
Everyone makes mistakes it is an inevitable part of life and living together. So unless the couple understands how to forgive then the resentment can take over. Being right can in this place become far more important than understanding, love and compassion.
I know that some of you have experienced the worst betrayal of all infidelity. It really is one of the most painful discoveries any partner can experience. The hardest part for the victim of infidelity is the understanding that they in some part where also party to that journey in some way.
Please note: No one seeks out an affair if they are really happy and all their needs are being met in their relationship. It’s important to know that the potential cost of not meeting each other needs is very high.
In fact when problems strike the issue is always a needs issue for the couple, most people are not aware what their needs are let alone how to communicate them to their partners. So the couple are disabled to create success.
Most people don’t think past the pain they feel, for them it’s simple you did wrong, I feel pain, now you must pay for my pain. This single minded approach is perfect if you want to design a divorce!
The longer the couple/individuals choose not to forgive, the relationship dies a little every day. The quest of being right, or dishing out more punishment is not preventing them from doing it again, it is teaching them they are in the wrong relationship.
So make sure you understand the result you want before you decide to act.
Choosing the path to growth through being true to you is always the right choice.
So now the question is how do we become true to ourselves.
This is the knowledge that creates the path not only to happiness, but also towards life fulfilment.
- So what do you really want? Do you want to grow or destroy your relationship?
It this has struck a chord please get in tough today!
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