I know most people think what I do is fix relationships and save couples from divorce. I have over the years, developed very successful strategies that enable couples in crisis to quickly discover if they have what it takes to be together for life.
This is why my service has become globally popular couples don’t want quick fixes that don’t last. They want to gain the critical tools needed to create a life long connection.
To be honest, my approach isn’t actually to fix anyone.
What I want is for two people to discover their truth. Do they have the ability to be able to create a dynamic that works for both people?
So really happiness is what I want for my clients, and that can be together or apart.
In the end, the result must be a win-win scenario for both people.
The lady you’re about to read about was confused and needed certainty with her life/relationship.
This lady was very tearful when she arrived. Her relationship had died and more than anything she wanted it to work.
What she didn’t see was the truth of why the relationship had failed all she felt was loss and abandonment. She was going to discover that getting to the truth of her relationship would transform her future her thoughts and help her out of her dark and powerless emotional state.
Throughout her relationship, red flags were giving her the message that something was seriously wrong, and she didn’t know how to hear or see those messages. So she continued with the relationship blind to what she was really in.
We quickly discovered her model of living was giving to others at the cost of her own values.
She saw giving was the way to get the best out of her relationships. I agree 100% it is critical to contribute but not at the cost of her own values.
She created this pattern to protect herself as a child, and she was now wrongly using it as an adult without knowing.
So the first mission was she had to now learn how to contribute to her relationships and remain connected to her true self. In essence, I had to help her discover how to connect and become her true self.
This is a common problem people suffer with. She didn’t know she had lost who she really was. She also didn’t know this reactive (reactive = out of conscious control) emotional position was what she used to keep the relationship alive.
The new message she learnt was this; she had to become someone she wasn’t to keep the relationship going. She also learnt that this would drain her and help her feel exhausted which she was.
This knowledge woke her up to the challenge she personally faced and the reality of the relationship she has been in.
The biggest problem couples are having with each other is their inability to be their true selves with their partner. It’s critical that either the couple find a way to achieve this critical self-connection or they discover it’s not possible.
This was enough to shift her emotional energy because she could now see why the relationship was the wrong one for her.
She then shifted focus and became curious about her future and how to craft it to be exciting and purposeful.
I helped her understand what a healthily relationship looked like and how she could be valuable within it. I also helped her understand how she could get the best out of any future partner and what red flags she must never ignore again.
She also discovered how she could master her own emotions and plan for a future that was exciting and purposeful.
She went from a dark energy of disconnect and uncertainty into a planned future of growth and love this profound shift helped her let go of a feeling of heartbreak and replaced it with confidence that she was now in the driving seat.
She achieved all this in just six weeks.
Her words are below
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Dear Stephen,
When I first came to see you, I was in a dark place. I felt lost in my relationship, and after the breakup, I was heartbroken.
The way you explained, how male and female brain works always shocked me, and how much I didn’t know about the difference between them.
I have learnt so much about my behaviour, how to be in control of my expressions, and I also got a good insight into why my relationship didn’t work.
I’m so pleased that I found you, you gave my confidence back, and now I’m starting on a new journey with a clear mind without dragging my painful past with me.
Thank you so much for all the advice and tips for the future!
I would highly recommend Stephen as his approach is so unique!
Best wishes,
L.
