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Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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Confidence replaces her heartbreak

I know most people think what I do is fix relationships and save couples from divorce. I have over the years, developed very successful strategies that enable couples in crisis to quickly discover if they have what it takes to be together for life.

This is why my service has become globally popular couples don’t want quick fixes that don’t last. They want to gain the critical tools needed to create a life long connection.

To be honest, my approach isn’t actually to fix anyone.

What I want is for two people to discover their truth. Do they have the ability to be able to create a dynamic that works for both people?

So really happiness is what I want for my clients, and that can be together or apart.

In the end, the result must be a win-win scenario for both people.

The lady you’re about to read about was confused and needed certainty with her life/relationship.

This lady was very tearful when she arrived. Her relationship had died and more than anything she wanted it to work.

What she didn’t see was the truth of why the relationship had failed all she felt was loss and abandonment. She was going to discover that getting to the truth of her relationship would transform her future her thoughts and help her out of her dark and powerless emotional state.

Throughout her relationship, red flags were giving her the message that something was seriously wrong, and she didn’t know how to hear or see those messages. So she continued with the relationship blind to what she was really in.

We quickly discovered her model of living was giving to others at the cost of her own values.

She saw giving was the way to get the best out of her relationships. I agree 100% it is critical to contribute but not at the cost of her own values.

She created this pattern to protect herself as a child, and she was now wrongly using it as an adult without knowing.

So the first mission was she had to now learn how to contribute to her relationships and remain connected to her true self. In essence, I had to help her discover how to connect and become her true self.

This is a common problem people suffer with. She didn’t know she had lost who she really was. She also didn’t know this reactive (reactive = out of conscious control) emotional position was what she used to keep the relationship alive.

The new message she learnt was this; she had to become someone she wasn’t to keep the relationship going. She also learnt that this would drain her and help her feel exhausted which she was.

This knowledge woke her up to the challenge she personally faced and the reality of the relationship she has been in.

The biggest problem couples are having with each other is their inability to be their true selves with their partner. It’s critical that either the couple find a way to achieve this critical self-connection or they discover it’s not possible.

This was enough to shift her emotional energy because she could now see why the relationship was the wrong one for her.

She then shifted focus and became curious about her future and how to craft it to be exciting and purposeful.

I helped her understand what a healthily relationship looked like and how she could be valuable within it. I also helped her understand how she could get the best out of any future partner and what red flags she must never ignore again.

She also discovered how she could master her own emotions and plan for a future that was exciting and purposeful.

She went from a dark energy of disconnect and uncertainty into a planned future of growth and love this profound shift helped her let go of a feeling of heartbreak and replaced it with confidence that she was now in the driving seat.

She achieved all this in just six weeks.

Her words are below

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Dear Stephen,

When I first came to see you, I was in a dark place. I felt lost in my relationship, and after the breakup, I was heartbroken.

The way you explained, how male and female brain works always shocked me, and how much I didn’t know about the difference between them.

I have learnt so much about my behaviour, how to be in control of my expressions, and I also got a good insight into why my relationship didn’t work.

I’m so pleased that I found you, you gave my confidence back, and now I’m starting on a new journey with a clear mind without dragging my painful past with me.

Thank you so much for all the advice and tips for the future!

I would highly recommend Stephen as his approach is so unique!

Best wishes,
L.

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I’m not going to ask you how you “feel", pay me to watch you argue, or try to find the person to blame.

I am looking to discover if the couple can become a team, overcome their problems together and create a dynamic that will create a loving and passionate life together.

My approach is to take you from where you are, to where you want to be… fast!

I can not recommend Stephen highly enough – he not only saved our marriage, but has improved my marriage and myself as a person.

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Olivia

Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

Kind regards

Chipo

Success Stories

Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

“I was in tears…” 

October 20, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

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“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

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When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

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  • Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns
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Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on the Stephen Hedger Marriage Coach website/s are proof of our success, naturally, results may vary from person to person.

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