Many people experience problems such as stress, depression, constant relationship challenges and over time stop seeing a future for themselves and can no longer see a future with their partner.
This lack of vision is created by years of feeling stuck and unhappy. They go through a process of having to change who they are to cope with their relationship problems and their partners behaviours. Some feel they have detached from their true self not liking who they have become.
This process of constant problems is actually changing them, because they are entering into a state of fear that their life is not going to be safe if their partner continues to behave this way in their relationship.
Some experience a problem with memory and they end up living internally. Running their problems over-and-over in their own mind.
All of these problems result in the person feeling very out of control of their life.
Lack of confidence, loss of self-esteem and self-worth, depression and stress, are all typical side effects of this problem.
This a horrible place to be and will help the person lose their ability to see a future. Life feels hopeless in this place, it can feel especially hopeless if they want to keep their relationship. This is because they are stuck in between two very powerful places, if I stay in the relationship I will experience more pain. If I leave the relationship I will experience pain.
There is a solution
Many people are in this place and so when they come to me for help either individually or as a couple, my first job is to build confidence into them as individuals, that no matter what happens they do have a future which is exciting.
This works to reduce their fears and enables them to think clearly about what they would like to do moving forward.
From this place they can embark on the start of a plan to live their life in a way which makes them happy and more connected to who they really are.
Individuals are usually shocked at how fast they change in just two hours from a place which is hostile and bleak to a new lighter, clearer feeling that there is hope, there is a future and it can be yours.
If you are going through a break-up and need help or not sure what to do with your relationship, lost due to constant worry. Please get in touch now.