How is it possible to help a couple in crisis? How can you bring a couple back from the brink of divorce? How is it possible to help that couple even if that couple are convinced there is no way back?
The answer is to change the thinking that lead them both to disaster. But the way they change their thinking has to connect them to their true-selves otherwise the changes cannot be sustained.
The reason couples struggle so much and end up shutting down and seeing divorce as the only option is because they were trying to use the thinking that created their problems to solve their problems.
New understandings about their experience together is the key to new meanings and a safer future together.
Communication is critical in any relationship so couples have to learn how to translate what their partner has really been trying to say.
Couples come to me in their 60’s after spending a lifetime together and are so shocked to learn how little they knew about what the other was really saying.
I watch these couples wake up to what’s been happening in their relationship and their confusion changes as they make a new connection with their thoughts about the past and what their partner must have been going through.
When couples become confused by each others words and actions it can create fear and these fears help the couple to change and drift apart.
Learning how to translate what is really happening in each others minds creates a different understanding and potentially a far deeper connection.
As couples learn how different they are and how to appreciate and see these differences as a strength they start to see how they can become a team.
Where the future seemed impossible before this new thinking rebuilds trust and respect and opens up a future of truth understanding and love.
Once this foundation is in place then the couple can really start to live.
So please remember this especially if you are struggling to connect: Any meaning that you put to your partners words or actions is likely to be your translation and not their true meaning at all.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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