With a consistently high success rate for the couples I work with, why is what I do so successful for couples in, or heading for crisis?
In short I help them discover how to become a team together. Below is the three key steps steps that move my clients very quickly from destruction to love. Before I take you through those steps, I will share the end of just one of the many letters I get from my clients…
A recent client wrote to me who had multiple challenges marital and personal. They had sought help from a few professionals, but nothing had changed.
This is the end of her email to me after we worked together for just 7 weeks.
“Thank you so much Stephen, you played an invaluable role in making us an
invincible team.Sorry for long email, but I thought you’d like to know the details.
I’ve got lots of mowing to catch up on and party to organise…Good luck with everything.
With love and best wishes
Samantha x”
From Crisis To Love – How to break the cycle of destruction
Couples when they first meet don’t know how to create a relationship where they become a team, in fact many couples end up as enemies. Most people meet fall in love and cross their fingers everything will be alright.
So to help a couples to go from crisis to love, I help the couple have a conversation in their minds that helps them to become more of who they really are and from that new position I give them the tools to repair the crisis and the tools to create a life long passion together.
So let’s look at the three steps to helping a couple out of crisis.
- Step 1 – Help the individuals to learn how they can be themselves in their relationship. Any person that feels they can’t be themselves in their own relationship will feel pain and want to leave it. This is a critical first step it does take courage, but the rewards are high.
- Step 2 – Give the couple the confidence to take actions that will repair their relationship, no matter what happens. When a couples learns how to grow closer through their conflicts the trust compounds over time. This is critical because without a secure attachment where the person feels they can be all of who they are and still be loved the relationship will die.
- Step 3 – Never stop meeting your partners needs. You see once the individuals feel that they can be themselves in the relationship and the trust has been restored, meeting each others needs becomes an organic part of the process. Once the individuals feel that they are important to their partner and they can see the consistent effort and the effort actually works their confidence in each other grows.
Are you now interested in speaking with me to learn how this can be applied to your marriage? If so I have a chance for you to speak with me for free… Interested? Click here.
To your success
Stephen Hedger
