Relationship break-ups are traumatic for everyone. What happens when the love runs so deep, that life starts to become second place. This is a story of a remarkable lady who worked with me to come out of her own personal hell to see the value of herself and regain her passion for her life all over again.
I will hand you over to her words below…
Last August I was in a dark and to be quite honest, scary place. Incredibly unhappy and feeling that life was never going to change. My husband of 17 years had suddenly walked out 18 months before. I hadn’t seen it coming at all and everything since had seemed totally surreal. My world had fallen apart and I felt totally lost. I spent most of the time in tears. I had lost the cheerful, optimistic side of me completely.
I don’t know what made me search for help again. I’d tried Counselling a year earlier, but just seemed to spend time discussing how I felt. I was too painfully aware of How I Felt – and why!
Anyway I finally decided I couldn’t go on living such an appallingly miserable existence and I needed help to find a route out.
I found Stephen through an Internet search. I hoped he’d be able to help us both get our marriage back on track. But although this hasn’t been possible I have gained more than I expected.
His patience and determination has been amazing. His support and encouragement has kept me going even when I so nearly gave up.
I am coming to terms with the breakdown of my marriage. Yes I still care very much for my ex-husband but I’ve learnt how to live with that. How to focus on the future rather than the past.
I have faced episodes in my life which I didn’t realise I needed to face. But facing them, and understanding the impact they have had, has helped me understand me so much better. And that understanding has made me feel so much more confident with who I am and who I like being.
Stephen has guided me out of my ‘pit of despair’ and into a happier sunnier place. And I am now working on new challenges and goals which I am determined will give me an amazing new life.
And if nothing else – I now appear to be able to stand up and speak in public which is something I have NEVER been able to do before!