Less than 3 months ago I told my husband of nearly 10 years that I wanted a divorce. This wasn’t a sudden decision I had been unhappy and unfulfilled in my marriage for a very long time and I couldn’t see any way forward. I certainly couldn’t imagine “celebrating” our 10-year anniversary in 4 months from then.
This wasn’t the first time I’d brought this up but this time I was adamant that we had come to the end of the road, it was a very painful conversation. My husband didn’t accept it – at all.
We agreed to seek help.
Neither of us had any faith in traditional marriage counselling, both having experienced it in previous marriages. But being a “veteran” coach myself I DO have great belief in the power of highly experienced coaching as a means to moving through major challenges and creating transformation – I’ve seen it time and again with my own clients.
My research found Stephen Hedger. After individual phone calls, my husband and I jointly decided to invest and start working with Stephen.
That was at the beginning of February and it is now mid-April. I never, ever, expected to be able to say “Stephen has transformed our marriage” after such a short period of time, but it is true.
We love and understand each other (my husband and I that is!) better than ever and I can’t imagine us splitting up. We are relaxed, playful, interested, loving and affectionate and my health and wellbeing have improved dramatically – I’d almost say I’ve never felt better.
I know we’ll have challenges along the way, life is a winding road, but it now feels that we have the tools, foundation and desire to resolve them together, we feel like a team again not two rather distant housemates.
Speaking professionally I am extremely impressed by Stephen’s approach – a combination of working with each of us individually and together – which proved vital for the transformation.
Obviously I knew some of the exercises we did but a coach cannot coach herself (or her husband) any more than a surgeon can operate on herself – yes we can do exercises alone, self-reflection, all sorts of things but Stephen’s professional – experienced, knowledgeable and caring – external guidance is what has brought us together and even lead me to wonder if we might renew our vows!
Who would have thought it… not me for sure or my closest friends or family I suspect.
I cannot recommend Stephen highly enough.