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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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I could feel anger bubbling within me

When I was growing up I never knew that I needed skills to make my relationships work. It never crossed my mind, I thought that relationships just happened. Two people met fell in love and that was life sorted.

So when problems started to happen for me the message was… “you have to work at it”. Well that message sounded hard to do because I had no idea what that really meant and aren’t relationships supposed to be fun? Good Lord, what was I thinking! Clearly not much back then, but I knew I was getting it wrong…

So when I started my search to discover what would really work I had no idea I was in for such a steep learning curve.

There was so much to learn and as I discovered more I could feel anger bubbling within me, why was I not taught this growing up? After all isn’t falling in love and keeping a relationship alive one of the biggest life skills we all need?

I didn’t know that the way women think was totally different to me.

I was shocked when this dawned because suddenly I could see how unfair I had been. I had judged my partners based on my own standards and rules for living totally missing that their rules and needs were totally different to mine.

I wanted respect from my partners because I felt I was not getting it, but without realising I was not respecting them either.

I was judging them and I was not qualified to. When I look back I cringe at myself, but my intent was to be loving, I knew I was a good person, but clearly even though my intent was good how my partner received it wasn’t good for them, I never knew.

I never considered putting myself in her shoes, I suppose I thought she felt the same as me and was being difficult on purpose.

Well these destructive philosophies kept leading me to disaster over and over again.

She would get angry, I never knew she just wanted love. She would change her mind constantly I thought that meant I couldn’t trust her. She would say a thousand words I never knew she just wanted to connect with me I kept looking for a problem to solve.

Deep down I knew she was different, but I didn’t know how different.

I cannot stress this enough, one of the major causes of relationship breakdown is not understanding the significant differences between men and women.

So many men are not listening to their partners cry for help and they wait until she is so disconnected before he looks for help, this is very risky.

To all men reading this please take action, because many problems can be sorted very quickly, but if you ignore them and they are allowed to get hold of your relationship you will find yourself in a significant battle that can feel impossible to win.

The person that once lovingly looked into your eyes and would do anything for you, can make a significant shift to feel like a total stranger as they lock down and pull their love away.

To be clear the reverse can happen too, but I see more men leaving it far too late to win her back after she has detached.

He says “I didn’t realise it was this bad”, when she picks her jaw off the floor she says “I cannot believe he couldn’t see it!”

To all women in this position, men will never get what you’re feeling, you have to learn how to get through to him, I never knew how to hear what my partner was really saying I had to learn this too.

The great thing is it can be learnt, both people can learn.

This is the difference that makes the difference. I teach couples how to love and look after each other for life this is what for me makes relationship coaching such an amazing process.

Couples tell me it’s like I’ve turned on a light in their relationship.

My relationship with Cloe is a clear testament that now I am getting it right and remember I was not born with this gift I had to learn it and so whatever life stage you are in believe me, learning how to love for life has been the most amazing gift life has given me.

I can’t wait to to share that valuable gift of how to love for life with you both…

 

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

“I was in tears…” 

October 20, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

“Lawyer saves relationship alone”!

July 27, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

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November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

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May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

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