Past relationship problems can have a profound affect on your relationship today, so much so they can change your future and the partners you choose.
- A simple example we can all spot: A victim of an affair could develop a problem with trusting future partners. These kind of past issues are easy to spot and with the right help can be changed.
What about past experiences we are not aware of..?
The real struggle happens is when complex past experiences have an effect on your relationships today. For example if a woman today is very masculine in her approach to relationships and her life. What kind of man do you think she would attract.
What kind of relationship would she have and how would this dynamic in her affect her children?
This is an example of the past affecting her future thatâ€™s powerful enough for her to change her personality from female to male dominated, but how does this happen?
She made a decision…
At some point in her life she made a decision to become more masculine subconsciously, she may have decided to do this because she was under threat, or she needed to get strong, but some life event created that version of her, she was not born with it.
When she made a decision to live her life in this way, what she did was to shut down many others parts of her true self, because if she allowed these feminine parts out she maybe under threat again.
The world has moved on, but she is stuck
The problem she now faces is her life circumstances have changed since she made that decision, and she no longer needs to protect herself in the same way. Her protection pattern is outdated and no longer needed, but she runs it as if she is still under threat.
Living in this version of herselfÂ could create signs of unhappiness or depression with her because her true values are not being met buy this distorted version of her.
Is there an outdated version of you running your life? Do you live in fear? Are you exhausted?
- One of the session I run is called a Journey of Self-Discovery and it is designed to uncover these choices we may have set-up without knowing.
It is designed to align you with your true-self so your decisions are no longer made from a perspective of fear, but from the clear knowledge that your choice will create a future of happiness.
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