So what do you do when a person is having marriage problems due to them living the story they tell themselves about their marriage, life, partner and past events.
When a person experiences an event or events that hurt them emotionally, they can live their life through those stories they tell themselves about what happened.
Past events don’t have to define a person’s life.
I see many people become victims of their past events and then live as victims of those past events in their day-to-day life long after the event has passed.
This is debilitating for that person and for those that care for them.
Many will ask the person to let that past go, this can be a challenge as deleting something from a persons mind that was upsetting is near to impossible.
So the mission isn’t to delete it as if it didn’t happen, the mission is to change the perception or meaning of the event so they are empowered.
So if a person wants to change how they feel, changing “the story” is one essential strategy to becoming more resourceful.
Living a disempowered life due to emotionally hard past events needs to change.
It’s true you cannot change the facts of the past, but you can change the perception.
This means it’s possible to see that history as an empowering springboard for a stronger and free emotional future.