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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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One session was all it took

I arrived in Harley Street yesterday ready to get working with a couple in my intensive Marriage Breakthrough Program. When I arrived I received a voice mail from another client I saw earlier in the week and she shared something that is important for all couples to know…

This couple came to their first meeting with me for an evaluation session where we have 90 minutes together. The goal of the first session with any couple is to evaluate where they are in terms of severity and the goals they would like to achieve.

It was an interesting session because initially, their problem was not obvious.

There was no doubt in my mind this couple really loved each other, but their problem was slowly was getting worse. Their arguments were going round in circles. He felt there was not a major problem, he was generally happy he just wanted the arguments to stop, but she was clearly very uncomfortable, but with no really clear idea on what was causing the problem.

This was a real frustration for them both. BTW over 70% of people that file for divorce are female so this is important to understand, because if she has problems that are not understood they never go away, ever.

To be clear to every couple out there this is how many couples start their journey to massive life-changing problems. An invisible problem starts a snowball of challenges.

This couple had a very successful relationship for many years and so this new phase in their relationship was the start of a problem that clearly needed to be understood quickly.

We looked at the many possibilities that could have influenced this new yet destructive change.

As we looked at all the key influencers, my mind was directed to what core issue was being challenged. What foundational part of this relationship was being compromised and how could they overcome that challenge as a team together.

As I saw their real problem appear I asked them a question: How would you both feel if we could solve this problem in one session, this session? They both became excited at the prospect, but we just had 45 minutes left.

I spent time explaining what was happening within her as these problems showed up. 1. It was important that she could see why she was challenged. 2. It was also important that he understood her world and why she was becoming so upset so he could be there for her in the way she needed.

I explained to her what she had to do to become part of the solution and how he could be there for her in a way she could connect to.

The process had to align both people with who they really were and engage their true sexual essence.

I showed him how to use his masculinity to create security for her that would free her feminine energy and I instructed her to open to him. When couples do this the sexual energy feels good and is based on a connection that’s honest and this creates a dynamic that can build growth together.

As the session progressed she kept repeating, “yes this is the problem”. He watched her excitement at now knowing what the real problem was.

In the session, she reconnected with the truth in his heart and he now had the solution to how to protect her emotionally in that moment and in the future.

They left on a high.

Back to Saturday’s voice mail… So she called and left a message which is the reason I do this amazing job. She had called to say… her words. “A huge, huge, huge thank you to Stephen” she explained how that one session had totally transformed their marriage.

Her gratitude was immense.

Many couples just want their problems to go away, the challenge for every couple is there will always be problems. The key to life is learning the skills to be able to deal with those problems and that’s what I share in my sessions.

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Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for consistently and naturally saving many marriages from divorce. He is a favourite of business leaders, business owners, Judges and celebrities.

Stephen runs his meetings from his office in Harley Street London and supports his global clients over Zoom.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

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Please Save Our Marriage! This was the first email I recieved from Darren and Sue, they were at breaking point. When they first entered my clinic you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. This was a couple with young children on the edge, breaking up seemed like the only option open to them… Sue […]

“He thought his life was over..!”

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Today’s post is a little different. I wanted to share with you a clients words about his experience of the pain of his divorce and the process of rebuilding him and his future. Over to him… The words hit me like a hammer ~ “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken, you never were. […]

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What you are about to read is about is a gentleman in turmoil. He thought he had lost the girl he loved and his one-year-old son. She had left him and this connected him to his core fears, emotions that were powerful enough to sabotage him from getting the very thing he wanted. As his […]

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  • All Roads Lead to Rome – “It’s Always About Me”!

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