Are you living in a passionless relationship? Do you want to know why it happened and how to change it? Then please read on…
What happens in most relationships is this. After the initial excitement of meeting each other, feeling that rush of you canâ€™t wait to be together and rip each others clothes off, what happens is life start to take over.
Friends, family, work, bills, hobbies and one day you notice that the passion you both had for each other has changed, and where you used to make time available to be with each other now you are lucky to get any kind of real conversation, let alone instinctive red hot passion.
Something has changed and you can feel it!
Two things have changed, one is the sexual driving, feel good chemicals that are produced when you first met, and secondly the effort that you both put in that helped to create those chemicals.
So what worked really well when you first met you have chosen to change, probably without noticing, or maybe you just expect the passion to die because everyone says it always does. Maybe that advice is coming from everyone who is making the same mistakes and now everyone is lost and agrees that this is what happens as if it is a fact, when it’s just their experience.
What changes is the behaviours of the couple
and itâ€™s this that kills the passion.
You may have worried that maybe the relationship is not right after all and so you went on a search for more problems and it was not long before you found them, because no matter how good any relationship is there will always be problems.
The truth here is whatever you focused on was what you got. Or in other words what you didnâ€™t focus i.e. each other, on you got far less of.
Your energy will go to where your focus is. So remember when you focused all day on seeing him, or her and all you could see in your mind was how beautiful, or handsome your partner was to you, and the adventure that might unfold on your next date. How you did you feel inside? Amazing of course, but when you focused on potential problems, you then felt terrible and attached that feeling to the relationship or your partner without knowing.
The passion in your relationship has not died you have just forgotten to focus on it, because other stuff became important, or maybe you felt that you had to pull yourself together and be careful incase he or she will not hurt you, or maybe feeling sexual all the time was not right, and that is a rule you never knew you had.
The problem is this, when your focus went to a place of pain you can then attached that pain to your partner or those feeling and so you wonâ€™t allow that to happen again. Now you have sabotaged your own passion through your thoughts and a focus of fear which you probably made up.
Remember this, your focus is very powerful and can change you whole future and direction, so be sure that this focus is 100% in line with all you value, and does not come from a place of fear, because this will always hurt you and in the context of passion will kill it dead.
AND… The thing that makes any relationship special is that bond of intimacy that is reserved for just the two of you. Without it you are just friends, and is that what you want?