I hope the last two posts have started to get you thinking about your relationship differently. You’ll notice with the right approach you can start to understand how to become successful through being true to who you really are. This internal honesty will help you and your relationship grow.
No relationship stays the same, and as time passes every relationship will hit times that challenge either the individuals or the relationship as a whole.
These are the times when two things will happen, either the relationship gets stronger and the relationship grows, or it gets weaker and the relationship slowly dies.
Our busy lives are full of stress as pressures surrounds all of us to do, or be the way society tells us we should be, this stress can breed uncertainty. In fact uncertainty is sat in many relationships as the individuals ponder it they made the right decision to be in their relationship.
Maybe they feel wrong in the relationship, but they don’t really understand why. Maybe they are just fed up that their needs are not being met and the future they once saw is now fading away fast.
Why is all this happening, what is at the bottom of all this unrest?
When a couple agrees to commit their lives to each other they are not just agreeing to live in a home, they are agreeing to a commitment to help each other to feel great about who they are and help their partners grow into the people they want to be, in the lives they want to live.
What this means is the couple is committed to understanding each others core needs so that when life does become challenging you know your partner will be there for you no matter what.
Even if they don’t understand what is going on for you they don’t judge you they just see your pain and through their love for you they want you to look after you. Of course you must be prepared to do the same. Please remember this is a giving relationship…
When this happens you can be 100% secure that you can TRUST them and they can TRUST you, NO MATTER WHAT!
- It’s this commitment to each other that really makes the difference in a couples life.
This means all of the time… No Doubts…
Without trust a relationship as no hope of survival and so if you or your partner cannot trust each other resentment will start to build. Many couples turn a blind eye to keep the peace.
Plus many couples make the assumption that their partner should just understand their needs. Know this, we all have to have our needs met in different ways so let you partner know fast what works for you and find out what works for them.
Again remember men and women are different so assuming a man understands a womans needs and is never going to happen. Don’t set each other up for failure share how to be successful with you.
- The “…if you loved me you’d….” are not the words that work in adult relationships.
Communication is the key because it builds understanding and that helps to build trust.
- Look forward to speaking to you in part four please post any questions or comments below.
