Shouldn’t a relationship / marriage be full of love, fun, passion and adventure. Shouldn’t it be a place to go to feel secure? Shouldn’t your partner care about how you feel no matter what? Shouldn’t a relationship have an exciting future?
For many this is how it should be, but isn’t how it actually is. They try to make it work, they try to communicate, but for many getting through to their partner can feel hopeless.
They start to feel their partner doesn’t care and so they suffer and suffer until the suffering turns to detachment and they feel so numb and cold towards their partner, they make the decision to leave the relationship.
Once they are 100% certain that leaving their relationship and breaking up their family is the right solution, the majority of people making this decision will fall into 3 camps.
- Months or years later they discover they have made a terrible mistake.
- Leaving was the best decision they could have made.
- They are experiencing problems again in their new relationships for some the problems are ironically the same.
Some of course are so traumatised by the whole experience they decide relationships are just not for them and they lead a life without love.
So the title question, Should all relationships be saved ? The simple answer is no, however, because leaving a failing marriage is such a massive decision that will affect so many people, knowing why the marriage really failed is so important.
I personally don’t believe in just saving relationships for the sake of it, in fact in some cases leaving a relationship could be the best thing an individual could do.
What I do think is critical is getting the right information before you press the button. This will save you and your family so much pain.
Also if both of you can really see why the relationship/marriage could never work the chances are the divorce would be far easier especially if you have children and this will help with the guilty feeling many people have about this decision.
If you do decide to learn about why your marriage failed you may learn that what you thought was a permanent problem was actually solvable and so the marriage and family could be saved.
Relationships are far more complex that many people realise and the impact of a divorce can have lasting effects, especially on children.
With the right information you are then armed to make decisions that will lead you to a secure happy future for all.
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