Fulfilling relationships are born from the knowledge of what has to happen for you to create your journey of success together. If that knowledge then forms your focus and your actions it will then become a part of who you are.
Your relationship then has a chance of growth through contribution of what really works.
The two individuals in the relationship are the foundations that support the relationship and so if the foundations are weak then the relationship either will suffer or cannot survive.
When relationships go wrong many people are focused on changing their partners behaviors so they can feel ok again, but this usually causes resistance and friction. Controlling others never works, so the quest is to work on what you can control and strengthen, the only thing you can control in your relationship is you.
When two people focus on themselves and the changes they need to make the effect is very powerful.
When you are able to break through your own fears, when you’ll discover how you can be who you really are in your relationship then your relationship and life has the best chance of being successful.
In essence what we are talking about is how to raise the bar on your own standards and become the example you want your partner to follow.
Many people have high expectations of what they want their partner to be like, but they don’t apply those expectations to themselves and sometimes their behaviors are actually worse. This results in their partner losing trust and respect for them.
Raising the bar on your own standards is very powerful because it will influence your partner to want to follow.
Think about some changes you could make today.
The key here is to know what works, know what doesn’t work and apply that knowledge to your life and relationship everyday.
So when you think about what you do and say in your relationship what does work and what doesn’t.
What do you know you have to change today?