We all have triggers that affect our emotional states negatively.
But what happens when those triggers affect the heath of our lives and our relationships?
Some people are so emotionally triggered they use their emotions like anger, upset, and withdrawal to control those around them.
What I see is some of these people are expecting the world around them to behave in a certain way so they don’t become upset.
The problem is because there is over seven billion people on the planet, getting the message out to everyone is going to be a challenge.
Please don’t do that around Jim, he doesn’t like it, or don’t say that to June she’ll have a fit.
Plus, you have noticed that some people are triggered by almost everything, so with an infinite amount of triggering potential and seven billion people to tell isn’t there an easier solution?
Wouldn’t it be easier to help the person with the triggers to get rid of them?
Then the Jim’s and the June’s of this world wouldn’t either be living with a family fearful of their triggers or them living alone as it’s less stressful for them.
When people start controlling others so they are emotionally safe it rarely works out well for that person in the end.
To be clear, there are some triggers that nearly all women react badly to and the same for men, so steering clear of more hardwired triggers is important to learn.
On the other hand, not all triggers are bad.
Discovering how to trigger our partners positively would be a highly valuable skill to learn.
Imagine helping an upset person into a better place emotionally, imagine a situation that would normally spark a fight be converted into connection, care and understanding.
Better connections are available for most couples they just need to know where to look.