When a couple has a values conflict the first thing to go is their sex life.
Many people see VALUES as just a list of words and as a simple list, yes you could say they are important, but miss the immense power they hold to change your life for ever.
If used incorrectly values can cause depression, anxiety, relationship break ups, abuse, violence, anger and many many more problems.
When values are understood and lived by life takes on a success they could never have imagined. People close to suicide discover a new lease of life. Victims of abuse discover how to give themselves security.
All the greats this world has seen understood the massive power of understanding and applying their values to their life consciously.
It’s really simple: If you don’t understand your values and your partners values then expect a traumatic rollercoaster.
It’s bad enough for one person who has no concept of their values for life, but two people attempting to live together will soon run into big trouble.
Values are the most important words you will ever learn, because they mean so much to us that they become a compass for our lives.
Many couples come to me with a conflict of values, they claim that certain values are important yet they fail to live by what they say is important to them.
It’s like a smoker that claims health is important, but carries on smoking. Something nags at them and so they talk about giving up for years but never actually do it. It’s the values nagging!
Couples claim that love is important yet they punish and hurt each other. They claim that trust is important and then they act in an untrusting manner that scares their partner to trust them even less.
It is this total lack of living by the values and standards that help couples fail.
If you are unhappy then the chances of you suffering from a conflict of values is really high. If you are having relationship problems the first place to start is with yourself. Become the best partner you can be by living by what you say is important and then help your partner through their problems.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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