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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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“We can’t find a way forward!”

2023 has got to be better for you, hasn’t it? I know many have had enough of their situation and want answers/solutions to their seemingly impossible relationship problems.

You should have answers because they are there for you if you know where to look.

Some are wondering if the marriage has run its course, some are looking for ways to fix the problems, and some are stuck because they are both scared to leave and scared to stay.

Many couples are resentful, either constantly bickering or withdrawn; this leaves many passionless as the trust is eroded daily.

They are bright enough to see the presenting problems but are stuck with how to resolve them.

The challenge is simple.

The problems that people present to me are what I see as symptoms of their real problems.

It’s why when they share their perception of their problems with each other, they are never resolved as they go around in circles.

How can couples ever solve problems if they are unaware of the real problem they face?

Not seeing the real problem when it arises has been compounded because they have not built a secure enough foundation.

They build their lives on quicksand and then wonder why they feel unstable as time passes.

Relationships are like most things in life; you must first understand the mechanics that lead to success or failure as a couple goes through each milestone.

From 30 to 80 years of age, how do you keep the connection and passion alive?

What mechanically do you need to know for this to be possible?

Once you have understood the mechanics, you must have an emotional system that will allow you to succeed.

If you get either of these wrong, you will be in for a long emotional battle with your partner and yourself.

Not understanding this is why many people end up in an expensive trial-and-error system.

Just imagine, after a few failed marriages or years of disconnect, what you learn is you don’t know what you are doing, and that’s if you are lucky.

The unlucky ones are still blaming everyone else.

I meet many people at 60+ years of age in this position, unhappy and lost in their relationships.

It’s why retirement and empty nesters are rife with marital problems when they should really be having the best time of their lives.

Understanding the problem

Most don’t know that being married is unlike any other relationship, and this is the problem.

  • The communication models are different from day-to-day life.
  • The mission each person is on is very different.
  • They both want happiness, but their emotional route to it is dramatically different.
  • They manage conflict differently.
  • Both people are usually unaware of their relationship roles (BTW, these are not one size fits all. Every couple is different).
  • They may try to deal with situations the best way they know how, but can be shocked at how their partner responds.
  • Neither usually knows the mechanics of keeping attraction alive.
  • In many cases, love is dying, and they are totally unaware until it’s too late.
  • They don’t have each other’s backs.
  • They are not a team.

The result of these basic foundations lacking is stacked resentments, loss of passion, and loss of love.

In many cases, they end up living parallel lives settling for a transactional connection whilst their connection dies.

So to help couples navigate these challenges.

The couple must learn how to reinvest

The first step is to engage in a reinvestment model.

This shows couples the mechanics and the emotional system needed to reconnect no matter what has happened.

Once they understand the mechanics, then each person is helped with the emotional system that will enable them to rediscover themselves in their marriage.

Most people lose connection to who they are through years of emotional disconnect and upset.

Once the couple is reconnected, the process is about keeping that connection alive no matter what life throws at you.

So if you are in a place of disconnect, the first step is to learn how to help both people reinvest, even if just one person is participating.

People who are stuck are simply not seeing the problem clearly enough to solve it.

Once you can see the problem, the steps to solve it are usually straightforward.

So if you want 2023 to free you from the pain and suffering of the past few years, maybe now is the time to do something about it.

Speak to my team to see how we can help you now.

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I’m not going to ask you how you “feel", pay me to watch you argue, or try to find the person to blame.

I am looking to discover if the couple can become a team, overcome their problems together and create a dynamic that will create a loving and passionate life together.

My approach is to take you from where you are, to where you want to be… fast!

I can not recommend Stephen highly enough – he not only saved our marriage, but has improved my marriage and myself as a person.

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Hi, I'm Stephen Hedger. I'm determined to help couples discover what their marriage is capable of with the right information. My only question is, will it be yours?

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Olivia

Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Chipo

Success Stories

Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

“I was in tears…” 

October 20, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

“Lawyer saves relationship alone”!

July 27, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

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Recent Posts

  • When a marriage breaks down – What do I do?
  • Marriage is a dance – A dance most couples kill
  • “We can’t find a way forward!”
  • Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns
  • Anyone that marries will have trouble!

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Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on the Stephen Hedger Marriage Coach website/s are proof of our success, naturally, results may vary from person to person.

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