7 Steps to building a secure passionate and everlasting love

Relationship don’t just happen they are created so below are 7 very important steps to consider when choosing to live together. Giving years of the only life you have to another person is a very important consideration, so making sure you’re planning for success would be a really good idea.

1. Plan your journey.

If you don’t know where your going together or what you are trying to achieve both as a couple or as individuals then how can fulfillment happen? Most couples stop planning their future at children. Children and life now becomes the focus and the relationship gets lost.

What’s worse is if the individuals have no plan for themselves and no joint direction.

2. Love your differences

Men and women are totally different not just in looks, but in the way they act, think and communicate.

The key to a successful marriage is how to understand the core strengths you both bring to the relationship and how those strengths will support the journey through life you have planned.

3. Share your needs

Your partner will not understand what you need unless you tell them. Many couples come into sessions with very little understanding of not only how to meet each others needs, but what their own needs actually are.

Not understanding each others needs is a significant problem and should never be ignored.

4. Love unconditionally

This is a sticking point for many, they hold back because they feel too exposed and so they put conditions on the love they give.

This is not a secure way to operate, because you can’t trade your love. If you do it will never work and is guaranteed to help the passion die.

5. Put your partner first

The moment your partner feels that something, or someone is more important than them you will have a problem.

What important is what they feel and not what you think.

6. Learn to listen

Unless you know how to listen to your partner so you understand the intent behind their words, you will be putting your meaning to what they say. Doing this not only creates confusion it creates resentment and this can lead to a loss of respect.

7. Repair problems fast

Couples that fail to repair their relationship to the satisfaction of both people, will enable a stacking of hidden resentments. These resentments will create distorted behaviors in the relationship leading to problems the couple can’t fix.

This is the most destructive problem for any couple.

About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.