She wants to be understood

No matter if you’re dating, or you have been together for years being understood is one of her biggest needs. If she feels he doesn’t understand her, this can scare her, it can help her to feel lonely, unloved, uncertain and that she doesn’t matter to him.

If it goes on for long enough she can feel numb and detached from herself and him in the relationship.

She will know she has changed and will feel he has too.

She may feel that she has communicated clearly about what’s wrong and what he can do to help her, but she feels he is not listening.

She may feel that when she is in pain emotionally he becomes more emotional than her. He makes her pain about him. He can do this in many ways shut down, escape, anger.

She can feel that she has to hold the relationship together, but she wants him to do that job, so she resents him because she knows she can’t be honest because he can’t take it.

She starts to see him as less of a man and so her desire for him goes and intimacy becomes a problem. Now her respect is going too.

She can feel that her relationship is slipping away not only does she feel that he doesn’t care, she can start to feel she doesn’t care either.

She starts to think maybe we are wrong for each other. Maybe we would be better apart.

If you are a man reading this, know that if she feels you don’t understand her the relationship can end in her mind long before she tells you.

I have seen women who have known the relationship is over months and even years before she gains the strength, or courage to leave.

She may be quiet, but that doesn’t mean she’s OK.

If you are in this place, or you can feel it starting to happen in your relationship please call us today.

About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.