This includes the things you don’t want. Most people are not aware of this, and sabotage themselves in their quest to achieve the life and relationship they desire most.
If you have ever purchased a new car, did you suddenly notice the world was full of people driving a car just like yours? Or maybe you were expecting a child, did you notice how the world was suddenly full of pregnant women?
Did you ever wonder why this was happening and the meaning, or clue this could be for you and how you work?
Have you noticed that people who are having affairs ironically find trusting partners difficult. Or people who focus on their lack of money always seem to stay poor. Or the person that fears being abandoned, or rejected becomes so fearful they create the very thing they fear most.
Or maybe the person who thinks life is hard, or life has to be a fight, will always have to fight or find life hard before they get just a bit of what they need.
Your mind is powerful…
The mind is powerful beyond belief, and if you give it an instruction it will obey. Here is the key, if you focus your mind on what you don’t want, it will give it to you.
For example if I ask you to not think of an elephant, your mind has to be directed to the very thing you don’t want to focus on to then obey and delete it.
The key to success in life and relationships is move towards what you want, NEVER move away from what you don’t.
This is rubbish..!?
Many people will now claim this is rubbish because they have focused on wanting lots of money, yet they still have none. What these people fail to realise is they have not focused on the gifts they have been given to learn and understand how to make the money they desire by making themselves more valuable to those that have the money they want.
Some people will claim to have poor relationships and blame their partner. Yet they fail to notice how they focus everyday on pulling their love away to punish their partner, so their partner follows and pulls love away too.
So you see with the right focus you can win, or loose it not what you say it’s how you say to yourself that makes the difference.
Now have a think what do you not want in your life. If you have what you don’t want, that will be because you have focused on it so much you have contributed to it happening through your fear and your focus on they very thing you don’t want.
Many clients come to me stuck, too afraid to take their eyes off what they fear.
These people will not change until either they change their focus or life becomes so bad that change is their only option.
Take control of your mind and watch how the world changes, and starts to give you what you ask for.
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With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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