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Since I started writing this blog in 2010 my mission has always been to help people in relationship stress become curious about why their marriage is in trouble because the foundations of disconnect can be highly complex.

Something interesting is happening which is why I’m writing to you today.

You see I started writing this blog because I wanted people to look deeper into the nature of their disconnect rather than staying focused on the surface problem which is where people stay stuck.

Surface problems or symptoms as I call them always cause couples problems because if they try to fix a symptom the problems will only get worse primarily because it’s the wrong problem to fix.

It’s like running out of petrol and your solution to this problem is more air in the tyres ridiculous I know but it’s how I see what people are doing to try to fix their own marriage.

So I have been writing thinking that individuals would read and take some of what they needed from each post.

Many people write to me with messages of gratitude telling me the posts feel very relevant to their problems and each post has something new to convey.

What I have never shared is I write specifically so both people will take something very different from each post.

You see my method of writing is I write one post for two very different brains knowing both minds will take something very different from my message.

I use one post to share a different message with each perspective in mind. The message to your partner will be hidden from you as you are not designed to see it.

It’s why couples go around in circles, you see knowing both perspectives it’s what I’m using to help couples reconnect.

I help those individuals see what I see.

So here is the unexpected bit…

I wasn’t expecting couples to read and share their perspectives on what I write together.

I had wrongly assumed people would read them privately and I’m sure many do, but I’m now hearing many couples are reading them together and discussing what I’m teaching.

So this is amazing, but there is also a problem hence today’s post.

The problem is each person is not designed to take the same message away from the posts I write and this is on purpose.

So when you do discuss what you read you will both translate what I write very differently, please know this is normal.

Each translation isn’t right or wrong it’s just naturally different.

What you need to learn and understand to be able to rebuild your connection is to be able to ultimately understand your partner’s very different perspective which is hidden from you.

But to achieve that you have to have the right perspective from your own side first which is what the posts are designed to do.

This is why every couple that comes for my help will start their process with individual sessions first.

You see they have to be trained to understand their partner before they can ever enter a couples session.

Untrained people in couples sessions tend to run their conflict patterns which I don’t allow as they are unhelpful and only serve to make the connection worse.

So if you are a couple discussing these posts please know your partners’ different perspective is not wrong they are simply picking up what I have designed to help them which will be different from the message I have designed for you.

Helping you see your partners’ perspective the way they see it, does take one-on-one training because it won’t ever happen naturally.

These posts are designed to get you the first step towards easier, happier and more passionate connections.

The job is to take a very complex subject and make it simple to navigate, but there is no escaping it to grow you will have to learn.

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Stephen Hedger
Stephen Hedger
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Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach

With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.

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  • Your Marriage Isn’t Broken — The Pattern Is. Here’s How to Fix It. - July 2, 2025

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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From Battlefield to Breakthrough: How to Save Your Marriage Without a Toxic Fight.

January 31, 2025 By Stephen Hedger

Most people who come to me for help believe their marriage is broken, so their level of hope is not high. Many will have tried to fix the problems without success. These people are unaware that there is a critical mindset shift: if you don’t make it, your chances of success dramatically drop. As you […]

“By changing yourself, you can change a relationship… because I did!”

September 16, 2024 By Stephen Hedger

We were in the process of physical separation, with my husband arranging to move out at the end of the month, and I was getting legal advice on proceeding with the divorce.  On one of those distressed and sleepless nights, I came across Stephen’s website and his blog. I was fascinated. What Stephen has written […]

“There’s no hope in hell – I want a divorce!”

April 22, 2024 By Stephen Hedger

So what do you do when the trust is broken so badly that their relationship ends with them selling their family home and moving into separate homes? Most people would consider this the end, but this gentleman decided something different. He wrote to me to see if I could help. I wanted to encourage his […]

Marriage Crisis from Infidelity & Communication Breakdown

August 21, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is about a professional couple in the UK who decided they wanted to share their experience of their tailormade program that was designed to help them out of their marital challenges. They were in crisis due to communication breakdown and infidelity. They had 12 meetings over five months to learn how to reconnect […]

His Marriage was Over!

June 5, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

This man was in the depths of sadness; his marriage was over, but he didn’t want it to be. They had seen numerous counsellors who had all concluded the marriage was indeed over. He had lost all feelings for his wife. Due to being so stuck for so long, he had started an affair. But […]

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