Most woman reading this will share this view “Women Want A Real Man” and in their mind have their own version of what that means. What she thinks and feels, needs to be respected and most of all listened to.
I strongly urge all men to read this:
I also know that men want to be able to please their partner, they feel terrible inside when they feel they can’t, or they feel they have tried and tried, but it’s hopeless.
So with these two desires, her wanting to be loved in the way she wants and him with the burning desire to please her and make her happy this should be easy, RIGHT? You’d think!
So let’s go some way to define what a Real Man is from a womans perspective.
A woman wants a man who wants to give her security in the way she needs it. This does not mean money, yes it feels good to have financial security, but this is not her direct connection to love. Her connection to love comes from his emotional intelligence in his desire to understand her and then take action every day to give her what she needs.
There are many ways in which she needs this security from him and every woman is unique. BUT what she wants is to know the man cares enough to find out and then DO IT!.
She also wants to know she the most important person in the world to him. If she feels his ***MOTHER***, another ***WOMAN***, his JOB, his friends are more important, then trouble will be brewing. It is dangerous if he assumes she knows she is important, because she has to experience it, again in the way she wants. Women want attention all the time, from a man they love. They are not unreasonable about it and it’s so easy to do, the little things make the world of difference.
She wants to feel that love from a man, that is true and genuine. She wants to have time to connect with him and see it in his eyes. Just the simple act of looking deep into her eyes and loving her no matter what is happening is one of mans most powerful tools. When I run this exercise in my sessions, even the toughest strongest, women just soften and connect with their feminine self and if feels wonderful inside for them.
A real man then works with her to help her not only become the person she wants to be, but in the future that she wants to have. So together you design a wonderful future together and you work as a team to achieve those goals.
You see it is the way a man GIVES to her is what makes the difference.
A real man has the emotional strength to help her feel safe to bring out in her the real woman in her. The mans reward for consistently doing this, is he will get back from her a powerful desire to make him feel like the man he has always wanted to be.
A real man is one that SERVES & PROTECTS his partner, in other words he gives he what she needs and keeps her safe from the outside world.
A real man will see when she is in pain emotionally and be there for her, loving her NOT judging her, or making her wrong. A weak man does not see her pain all he is focused on is how he feels, he does judge her and he does make her wrong.
- If a man does this the relationship will start to DIE!
A woman is not designed to be the protector of the man, so if SHE feels that HE is NOT strong enough emotionally SHE has no choice, she will get strong because she has to and will then see her man now as a BOY, feminine or weak. Even if he earns £5 million a year the money does not equal masculine or strong, in her eyes if she is not looked after emotionally. The money is therefore worthless in emotional terms. So if a man thinks he gives her everything and that everything is attached some way to money he is going to fail fast.
This weakness in him is NOT sexually appealing for her and so intimacy can stop very quickly or become very difficult. Plus she will resent him and lose respect for him. She may still love him, but the love is now different, because she now has to become the man in the relationship.
A Real Man is a giver, a protector and serves his partner every day with what she needs, not what he thinks she needs, what she needs because he has taken time to find out.
When a man does this in the way that feels wonderful to her, SHE will stop at nothing to help him feel like the man he has always wanted to be. You see understanding and giving love is the answer.
What’s most important is a man has to be relentless and consistent, he can’t be wonderful for a few days not get the reaction he wants and then blame her. Where is the strength in that, if love is important, it is important “all of the time” and not some of the time.
So the question is this: Is a real man living in your relationship?
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