Most woman reading this will share this view “Women Want A Real Man” and in their mind have their own version of what that means. What she thinks and feels, needs to be respected and most of all listened to.
I strongly urge all men to read this:
I speak to many men in my sessions. They want to be able to make her happy; they feel they suffer inside when they feel they can’t, or they feel they have tried and tried, but it’s hopeless.
So with these two desires, her wanting to be loved in the way she wants and him with the burning desire to please her and make her happy this should be easy, RIGHT? You’d think!
So, let’s go some way to define what a Real Man is from a woman’s perspective.
Many women I speak to want a man who will help them feel safe and free to be their true selves in the relationship.
This does not mean money. Yes, it feels good to have financial security, but this is not her direct connection to love. Her connection to love comes from his emotional intelligence, in his desire to understand her and then take action every day to give her what she needs.
She needs a connection to herself that she enjoys and a connection to him that brings her the energy and spark that makes their connection unique.
She needs this security from him in many ways, and every woman is unique. BUT what she wants is to know if the man cares enough to find out and then DO IT!
She also wants to know she the most important person in the world to him.
If she feels his ***MOTHER***, another ***WOMAN***, his JOB, his friends are more important, then trouble will be brewing.
It is dangerous if he assumes she knows she is important because she has to experience it, again, in the way she wants.
Women do want attention from the man they love. They are not unreasonable about it and it’s so easy to do, the little things make the world of difference.
She wants to feel that love from a man that is true and genuine.
She wants to have time to connect with him and see it in his eyes. Just the simple act of looking deep into her eyes and loving her no matter what is happening is one of man’s most powerful tools.
A real man then works with her to help her not only become the person she wants to be, but in the future that she wants to have. So together you design a wonderful future together and you work as a team to achieve those goals.
You see, it’s the way a man GIVES to her that makes the difference.
A real man has the emotional strength to help her feel safe to bring out in her the real woman in her. The mans reward for consistently doing this, is he will get back from her a powerful desire to make him feel like the man he has always wanted to be.
A real man is one that SERVES & PROTECTS his partner, in other words he gives he what she needs and keeps her safe to be able to connect to herself when she is with him.
A real man will see when she is in emotional pain and be there for her, loving her without judging her or making her wrong. A weak man does not see her pain; all he is focused on is how he feels. He does judge her, and he does make her wrong.
- If a man does this, the relationship will start to DIE!
A woman is not designed to be the protector of the man, but she will be the protector of the relationship, so if SHE feels that HE is NOT strong enough emotionally, SHE has no choice; she will get strong because she has to and will then see her man now as a BOY, feminine or weak.
Even if he earns millions a year the money does not equal masculine or strong, in her eyes if she is not looked after emotionally she will have to look after herself.
The money is therefore worthless in emotional terms. So if a man thinks he gives her everything and that everything is attached some way to money he is going to fail fast.
This weakness in him is NOT sexually appealing to her so intimacy can stop very quickly or become very difficult. Plus, she will resent him and lose respect for him. She may still love him, but the love is now different because she now has to become the man in the relationship.
A Real Man is a giver, a protector and serves his partner every day with what she needs, not what he thinks she needs, what she needs because he has taken time to find out.
Real men become detectives and find out what she needs because it is the only way to look after her.
When a man does this in the way that feels wonderful to her, SHE will stop at nothing to help him feel like the man he has always wanted to be. You see understanding and giving love is the answer.
What’s most important is a man has to be relentless and consistent, he can’t be wonderful for a few days not get the reaction he wants and then blame her. Where is the strength in that, if love is important, it is important “all of the time” and not some of the time.