Why Doesn’t My Partner Understand Me?

For most couples even the ones with amazing relationships there are times when they misunderstand each other.

For couples in trouble, a lack of understanding can feel like a permanent state as the couple start to feel that life together is hopeless and so they can spend months, even years suffering as they start to believe either my partner doesn’t care, or maybe we are incompatible?

It’s important to understand that not understanding each other is very normal. This is because the  way men and women process their relationship is very different.

Masculine logic and feminine logic is very different especially when it comes to emotions in intimate relationships. Both will make perfect sense, but just not to each other.

The success of any relationship is going to be in the curiosity of the individuals to learn about each other.

So now you know your partner thinks and feels very differently to you, their feelings may not make sense to you, but before you judge them and pull your love away, take a moment to look at the pain they are in before you protect you.

Protecting you could cause more problems that you realise.

You see too many individuals in relationships wrongly assume their partner is trying to hurt them and turn their focus to protect themselves.

The challenge with this protection is, if i’m constantly protecting myself from you, my trust in you dies and so the relationship can’t grow. So it dies.

Many couples feel they are communicating, but can see their partner is not listening. In many cases they are listening but what’s being said doesn’t make sense. This is not their fault.

In my session I become the translator between male and female as I translate what each other is really trying to communicate. I help them understand how to look after each other so they can shift their focus away from protection and loss of trust, towards a more fulfilling focus of love, passion and adventure.

If getting through to your partner has been impossible make contact today to we can help you reconnect.


About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.


  1. Danielle Crentsil says:

    I believe that marriage is very much like a job where some time we enjoy it but get either bored or disappointed too I have been married for 27 years and I can’t remember how many times we did think and spoked of divorce Exactly when we think that its over between us somehow we both look back from where we have started and feel responsible to carry on yo the end.I now its strange