30 days ago I decided to start a new category on this blog to help people understand what they must STOP or NEVER do if they want to maintain a healthy connection.
Tomorrow I’m going to share why I ran this series and what you need to understand from all these posts.
I’ve collected them all up for you to revisit the ones you connected with below.
I wonder how many of the 30 are in your relationship?
Tomorrow I will explain there is more to getting the future right than simply stopping a behaviour because unless it’s understood the change won’t last.
Until then feel free to browse below and I’ll see you tomorrow.
Very best to you Stephen Hedger
September 1, 2022
“My Partner Blames ME for Everything!” – Mini Post
“My partner constantly tells me I’m the problem, so I get blamed for everything!” This is a common complaint that enters my sessions. To be fair it
August 31, 2022
“I Don’t see the Problem..!?” – Mini Post
What do you do when one person is unhappy in their marriage and the other says they are perfectly happy and can’t/won’t see the problem? Many
August 29, 2022
“NEVER Sweep Problems Under The Carpet!” – Mini Post
I have seen so many people who have had problems for years and for a quiet life or to protect the relationship they ignore them, they hope they will
August 28, 2022
The RULES for Being UPSET? – Mini Post
Have you ever noticed that some people can look for ways to be upset, either by a situation, what someone said, or what they think they should have
August 27, 2022
“You made me feel…”
You made me feel terrible, upset, angry, mortified these are a few emotions people blame others for making them feel. I hear people in sessions
August 26, 2022
How Emotional Patterns Destroy Marriages
The challenge we all face is on some level we all have some kind of unhelpful pattern that we learned growing up. It’s nothing to be ashamed
Marriage Coaching, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 25, 2022
“A Simple Reason Why Relationships Fail!” – Mini Post
If you want to know the most common reason why relationships fail so you can avoid it, this post is for you, because in the land of failed
August 24, 2022
NEVER let your partner enter a “CRITICAL NEEDS DEFICIT!” – Mini post
Who knew each person on a planet is driven by different and very specific emotional needs? When these needs are not met couples will always experience
Lost Attraction, Marriage Coaching, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 23, 2022
“I don’t TRUST YOU enough to want to hear you!” – Mini Post
Losing trust in someone is what resentments will do to a person, especially when those resentments are stacked over time. It blocks them from
August 21, 2022
“Why do you feel qualified to be his judge?” – Mini Post
It’s rare I allow a couple to engage in conflict in my sessions. I don’t see the point in them paying me to watch them argue, they can do that at home
Marriage Coaching, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 20, 2022
“Her husband is suffering and she is unaware!”
Yesterday I shared a post about how women in marriages are suffering, but of course, it’s only half the story. Men are suffering too, but women are
Marriage Coaching, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 19, 2022
Women are struggling, but men don’t understand why – Mini Post
I have had hundreds of sessions where a lady in a session is sharing her upset and the man is totally confused as to why she would feel this
Marriage Coaching, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 18, 2022
What will break the connection? – Mini Post
“We don’t have fun, I don’t feel that I matter, we bicker all the time and to top that we have nothing exciting interesting and fulfilling to look
Marriage Coaching, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 17, 2022
Knowledge isn’t power – but it’s a start – Mini Post
I spend most of my time teaching very bright people how to understand their relationship and their partner’s behaviours and words. One of the
Marriage Coaching, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 16, 2022
Stop bickering and arguing – Mini Post
Arguing is really a power struggle between two people who are forcefully wanting the other person to see things their way. If you looked at it from
Marriage Coaching, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 14, 2022
“Never attach your meanings to your partner’s words and actions!” – Mini Post
One of the fastest ways to spark conflict is to assume the meaning you are attaching to your partners’ words is the right meaning. I remember
August 13, 2022
“Living with a problem partner” – Mini post
If anyone wants to have a successful lasting marriage then a person’s relationship with themselves is critical to master before they can ever be
August 12, 2022
“Never be a dream killer” – Mini Post
With only one life, everyone deserves to live their dream or at least have a go. One of the challenges is when a partner wants to block that dream
August 11, 2022
“STOP making YOUR partners upset about YOU!”
One of the most common patterns is when one person becomes upset and the other becomes upset because they are upset. This kind of
August 10, 2022
“Never try to change your partner”
I’m going to share why trying to change your partner is likely to kill your connection, your attraction for each other and negatively affect your sex
Loss of passion, Marriage Coaching, Rebuilding trust, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
August 7, 2022
Never make anything more important than your partner – Mini Post
When anything becomes more important than your partner problems will never be far away. Too many relationships are stressed because a husband or a
August 6, 2022
Never Ignore Your Partner’s Cry for Help – Mini Post
I remember as a child, in my first ever game of hide and seek, I closed my eyes because I thought if I couldn’t see them, they won’t be able to see
August 5, 2022
“What’s wrong with you!?” Mini Post
I have seen so many couples come into sessions with a belief about their partners’ reaction to a situation, they tell me it was clearly ridiculous,
August 4, 2022
“If you loved me you’d know…” – Mini Post
“If you loved me you’d know” I have heard this in sessions so many times and it’s a significant problem for those couples. I have to STOP people
August 3, 2022
“Stop EXPECTATIONS they stress relationships” – Mini Post
People in relationships need to STOP setting their expectations of each other because it doesn’t lead to harmony, it only creates disappointment,
August 2, 2022
Why Lie?
Lies decimate relationships because they break trust a foundation the relationship can’t function without. Lies are interesting because some people
July 31, 2022
Affairs are not solutions to anything – Mini Post.
People in unhappy relationships can find themselves being tempted into affairs. To them, the affair has magically solved the unhappiness
Infidelity-Affairs, Stop & Never – Mini Posts
July 30, 2022
“Why NAGGING has to STOP!” – Mini Post
The person nagging either wants the person they are nagging to align with the problem as they see it, or they want the person to take the action they
July 29, 2022
“Never BE your partners’ judge” – Mini Post
The fastest way to build resentment, create disconnection and move them to meet their needs outside of the relationship is to tell them you are
July 27, 2022
“Never Threaten The End of the Relationship!” – Mini Post
I’m introducing a new category into this blog. It’s called “Stop and Never” Mini Post Series which should be under 200 words – I’ll try… In
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